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PSYCHOLOGICAL VIEWS OF THINKERS ON FAMILY MANAGEMENT AND
CHILD REARING
Akhmedova Nasiba Achilovna
senior teacher of JDPU
Abstract:
The article examines the impact of family management on the formation of a child's
intellectual abilities. family management methods by applying psychological characteristics
correct formation , Psychological views of thinkers on family management and child rearing
illuminated.
Keywords:
Family, management, child rearing , psychocorrection, healthy lifestyle, authoritarian
style, democratic style, oppression, violence, intellectual ability, liberal style.
The development of society is directly dependent on the level of formation of the socio-economic
and spiritual image of the families within it. The demands that any society places on families are
their If it does not conflict with the interests of the family, on the contrary, it should ensure the
well-being and peace of the family. If it helps, support for social needs from families, the higher
the rate of ensuring their actual implementation.
Decree of the President of the Republic of
Uzbekistan No. PF-60 dated January 28, 2022 “ On the Development Strategy of New Uzbekistan
for
includes the following issues: “From the Strategy of Actions to the Strategy of Development,
ensuring the rights, freedoms and legitimate interests of young people, based on the principles of
goodness and humanity; Preservation of the life and health of young people, improvement of the
conditions for their access to qualified medical services, increasing medical literacy among young
people and strengthening a healthy lifestyle.”
Family relationship system – According to Satir, it is not the manifestation or performance of
family members in certain roles in one or another situation, but rather a “map” of relationships
that is specific to each family. For example, a therapist who wants to help a family needs this map,
because it is difficult for him to imagine the real relationships of real members in another way. In
addition to these family members, this map also includes the influence of their relatives.
For example, if a man is somehow separated from his family and lives with his wife and children,
his real relationship with his wife is influenced by his mother living in another house, then the
influence of the mother-in - law must also be taken into account in the map of family relationships.
Or a woman who has divorced her first marriage may constantly remember her ex-husband
because he lives with her child , see him at the request of the child, and even be financially
dependent on him . This, of course, does not fail to affect real family relationships. In some intact
families, even after a son gets married or a daughter has a child, parents continue to grieve for
them and try to ensure that they do not stumble in life.
In fact, in almost all regions of our country, there are customs according to which a mother
considers herself fully responsible for the food and nutrition of her newborn daughter . There are
two reasons for this: firstly, such a renewal occurs in the div of a newly born woman that the
very food and drink she has eaten and drunk in her family over the years accelerates the
adaptation processes; secondly, the kindness of her mother helps the young mother forget about
the misfortunes she has recently experienced and feel like a real mother. This psychological state
is extremely important, and among Uzbeks it is considered one of the factors of family strength.
The mother-in-law is also a mother, she also feels sorry for her daughter-in-law, she does
everything she can to forget the pain of childbirth, but in many observations, receiving news from
her own birth mother and being there plays a major role in helping the young mother enter the
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role of motherhood more quickly and breastfeed her child. The following four main styles of
management are distinguished in the family: democratic, authoritarian, liberal, and mixed. As it is
easy to guess from the name, the attitude of adults to the child is based on
the idea that the child is independent, not passive, that various manipulations can be carried out
with him that effectively affect the child's development and lead to the desired result. The result, it
should be noted, is clearly known to adults: "obedient, compliant, convenient child". The interests
and opinions of the child
are perceived as a non-decisive object of influence. Authoritarian style - tyranny, pedagogy of
violence and coercion. Those who implement this method of education The example of the
teacher is very clear from the children's writer Atsrid Lindgren. This is a familiar Miss Bok,
whose experience has shown that children are "silk" Love is not used to be.
The child's teacher Let's remember our first meeting: the unfamiliar woman's unstable tone, her
The harshness makes the child blush and hide behind his mother.
The style of upbringing (communication) in the family is a set of personal elationships, concepts,
principles, value orientations that provide conditions for the development of the child and his
preparation for social life. Basically, the dominant type of parental influence on the child is
considered, but it is necessary to take into account: which of the family members dominates and
how he dominates, as well as
the significance of the influence of any family member on the child. However, it is often possible
to observe disagreements between spouses regarding the same actions of the child, which are
formed depending on the style of relations between the parents. In some areas, it has become
customary to distinguish 6 main types of family management styles : authoritarian, aggressive,
democratic, chaotic, distant and overprotective. Each of these styles has its own characteristics
and
affects the psyche and personal development of the child in different ways. Relationships with
different styles of family upbringing imply a deep attention or indifference of parents to the
child's personality. Parents “pay attention to everything”, “notice nothing”, are not interested in
the child's development and inner spiritual world. Actively avoid contact with him , keep him at a
distance. Children are left to themselves.
In some families, parents either “do not see” their child, or avoid active communication with him,
preferring to keep him at a distance (psychological distance).
The indifference of parents to the development and inner life of the child makes him lonely,
unhappy. Later, he develops an alienating attitude towards people or aggression. At school, a
child from such a family is insecure, neurotic, has difficulties in relationships with peers. No one
in the family is interested in the development or spiritual world of the child, he prefers to keep a
distance and not communicate at all. In his youth, he suffers terribly because of such an attitude.
Alienating parents are more common in dysfunctional families where one or both parents abuse
alcohol or drugs. Such a careless attitude of parents
makes the child lonely and deeply unhappy, insecure. He loses the desire to communicate, and
aggression towards people may develop. In the family, the relationship between parents and
children is their, physical, mental and spiritual development and the development of various
psychological characteristics The direct impact on the formation of... has been studied in many
studies. The methodology of A.Ya. Varga, VVStolin is used for precisely these purposes.
This test-questionnaire assesses the relationship of parents to their children. It is a
psychodiagnostic tool used to determine the relationship between parents and their children.
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The relationship between parents and their children is understood as a system of various emotions
and behaviors of adults towards children. From a psychological point of view, the attitude of
parents to their children is a pedagogical social institution established in relation to these children,
which includes rational, emotional and behavioral components. These components are assessed to
one degree or another using a questionnaire that forms the basis of this methodology. Some
changes were made to the processing and description of the results obtained by RSNemov, using
some terms belong to despotic parents who demand unconditional obedience from the child, do
not consider it necessary to explain the reasons for their prohibitions and orders, do not give them
the opportunity to speak, and strive to control their children .
Such upbringing leads to negative consequences. The child may become inactive, insecure,
dependent. Children from authoritarian families do not want and do not know how to share their
experiences, because no one takes them into account, and they often fall under the bad influence
of their peers.
Democratic style. You are a caring and attentive parent. The child always feels your emotional
support. At the same time, you show sufficient firmness and consistency in your requirements.
You discuss their lives with children, and do not give them orders. Influencing the child, you give
reasonable arguments, try to explain to him the reasons for restrictions and prohibitions. The
advantages of this upbringing style are that parents encourage independence in their children,
allow them to make their own decisions and take responsibility for their actions.
Parents caring and patient, relationships with children, as a rule, warm. Liberal style. The main
principle of education: "What the child is interested in, he will not cry." Undemanding attitude
towards the child and inconsistency in upbringing lead to the fact that children do not see (do not
feel) the boundaries of acceptable behavior, they grow up infantile. Liberal parents cannot teach
the child to control himself, so he is less likely to develop a sense of self-esteem. Children usually
do poorly at school and grow up very unhappy.
In the future, such a small person will deprive his children of their childhood. Wonderful loving
parents who try to give everything they have and their own uncontrolled, dreaming of revenge on
the whole world for their grievances, can grow as an aggressive type. Therefore, in the family,
parents' special attention to the mental growth and intellectual development of their children ,
along with their morals , helps children grow up with a broad outlook .
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