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The Role of Parents in Raising Children
Kholikov Ishkabil
Professor of the National Pedagogical University of Uzbekistan, doctor of historical sciences, academician of the International Academy
of Sciences of Ecology, Human and Nature Safety, Uzbekistan
Received:
24 May 2025;
Accepted:
20 June 2025;
Published:
22 July 2025
"Every tree bears fruit.
and the fruit of the heart is a child."
Father's word
Abstract:
The article examines the role of parents in raising a child.
Keywords:
Family, parents, child, upbringing, education, history, love, loyalty, skill, work, respect, will.
Introduction:
For us, raising a child is a family's
responsibility to the Motherland and the people, and at
the same time, it is its most honorable duty.
Accordingly, the book interprets the social activities
and family duties of each person in close connection
with each other.
The ability to create a harmonious family community is
one of the most important factors in raising a child.
Each family member must correctly understand their
duty and fulfill it wholeheartedly. The book also
emphasizes that parents should be kind and respectful
to each other for the formation of human qualities in a
child. When parents disrespect and hurt each other,
they have torn away the faith that was just beginning
to sprout in a tender heart with their own hands.
As our ancestors emphasized, if you want to be happy,
emdiv the following virtues: first of all, fulfill your
duty to parents, for parental happiness is a great
wealth for a person.
In the books "Ahyo" and "Kimyo," the following words
are written about children: "A child is a trust in the
hands of parents, and their heart is like a delicate gem.
Just as various patterns can be engraved on gems, so
too can various thoughts be imprinted on a child's
heart. A child is like fertile soil; whatever seed you sow
in it will grow. Therefore, parents and teachers should
collaborate in this endeavor, sowing only the seeds of
goodness in their hearts."
Guide the child from the darkness of anger towards the
light of knowledge, for knowledge is human pride,
while ignorance is negligence.
One of the foundations of fathers' love for their
children is to devote all their strength and energy to
adorning their children with intelligence and
perfection, clothing their being with the garment of
skills and professions.
History shows that our fathers are constantly striving to
bring the distant members of the family closer and to
provide for those in need. They prepare housing for us
to live in. They find clothes for us to wear. They
endeavor to find food for us to eat and work. Indeed, it
is the father who is primarily responsible for the
prosperity of every family.
We must recognize that our forefathers worked
tirelessly for us, striving with all their might to provide
us with all the good things within their power. In
gratitude, we should obey them, follow their
instructions without question, rush to help when our
father is tired or in need of assistance, and always be
ready to fulfill our filial duty.
One of the important duties of every child is to show
respect and reverence to their parents and to treat
them with compassion and mercy. A child who does not
please their parents and offends them will never
prosper and will not have respect in the eyes of the
people!
Our mothers spared no love and affection in raising us,
sacrificing their peace, staying awake at night, and
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dedicating themselves to our upbringing. When we get
upset or feel slightly hurt, it's the mother who fusses
around us, and when we fall ill, she loses her peace and
tranquility. Without a gardener, the fruit of any tree
will not be good. A mother is a gardener for us. She is
always eager to take care of us. Any child who
understands this places their mother above everything
else and always respects her.
A wise child never forgets their mother's love, even for
a moment. Even when undertaking small tasks, they
inform their mother, seek her consent, listen to her
words, follow her advice, and always strive to express
gratitude to her.
When grown children, having received a good
upbringing and mastered a profession, visit their
mothers, they never speak harshly to them. Instead,
they comfort them with gentle words, remembering
that they were once nourished by their mother's milk
and cared for in her embrace. They bring to mind the
hardships their mother once endured for them,
attempting to make her forget these sufferings and
toils. They seek to win their mother's heartfelt approval
and make her happy for a lifetime.
Therefore, it is the duty of every child to serve their
parents. However, this duty is fulfilled when parents
need their child's services.
A child's manners towards their parents are such that
they listen attentively to everything their parents say.
He doesn't come down to them. Whatever they
command and what they command, if there is no
betrayal or sin, they perform with all their heart and
soul. When they get up from their seats, he also jumps
up. When called, he answers "yes." He always longs to
make them happy. He stands before them with a bow.
He doesn't complain about his actions. He doesn't look
at his parents with anger or frowning over their
occasional actions. He doesn't travel without
permission.
Some of his other rights are that he maintains proper
etiquette in their presence. He doesn't undress. If
something hurts, she tries to hide it as much as possible
so as not to worry her parents. He establishes proper
etiquette rules in everything similar to it.
According to books, parents have eighty rights over
their children. Forty of them are carried out during life,
and the remaining forty are carried out after death. Of
the forty rights during his lifetime, ten belong to coins,
ten to the tongue, ten to the heart, and ten to wealth.
A person always sets certain goals and aspirations, and
to achieve them, they constantly work with enthusiasm
and perseverance. Some set great goals for themselves
and fight fiercely to achieve them, while others limit
themselves to dreaming and fantasizing.
Parents can be considered one of the happiest spiritual
wealthy people. Because they raise a human child who
is more precious than any jewel in the world and leave
them as heirs to great deeds.
If parents work tirelessly for years to educate and raise
their children to become true human beings, but once
do something inappropriate, they greatly damage the
respect
History shows that school is the garden of youth, and
children are its priceless saplings, and teachers are the
wise, diligent, and caring gardeners of this garden.
A wise and intelligent person, even reaching the
heights of any science and a high position, never
forgets his parents and teachers, because in all his
achievements lies their intellect, wisdom, labor, and,
moreover, their precious life.
Just as sunlight, water, and air are essential for a plant
to grow well, the joint care of parents, teachers, and
the community is equally essential for a child's growth.
Every parent sees their child as the most beautiful and
precious of all. This is characteristic of parents. Our
wise people say: "Typriaticum - my soft one, beetle - my
white one." However, excessive parental affection and
inappropriate pampering can lead to unpleasant
consequences.
The child is born in debt to the mother, the mother
embraces him warmly, gives him milk, cares for him for
years, raises him, and thanks to the mother's hardships,
the child's debt grows. Only a person deprived of
feelings of heart and conscience can hurt the mother of
the world and turn a blind eye to her sufferings.
If a person hopes to dig a well but doesn't get water,
it's very bad, if they raise children all their life but don't
enjoy it, it's even worse.
Days, months, and years add to a child's life, life, work,
and knowledge add to his intellect and perception.
If there is no harmony, love, and loyalty between father
and mother, the suffering of this will be severe not only
for them but also for their children.
A child is proud of their self-confidence and is especially
pleased to have earned the trust of parents and
teachers; therefore, the educator's (parents') ability to
rationally combine demanding and trusting behavior
positively influences the child's up
As is known, the taste of food is known not by the
spoon, but by the tongue. The pleasure of life is known
not by the lazybones lying in the shade, but by those
who built it with their own labor. If a father and mother
raise their children in the spirit of diligence and pass on
to them the best human qualities, they will make their
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children happy for life. Some parents "gift" their
children pampering and make them unhappy forever.
A child should be raised to speak the truth, to be brave,
not afraid of death, to be ashamed of being disgraced
before the people, and to be modest. We know that
sculpture is made by skilled hands. It represents a
beautiful image that amazes one'
It is necessary to raise a child with a strong will, because
all the movements of a person without willpower are
like the movements of a kite. A weak-willed person
sways like branches in the direction of the wind.
Just as a bad wound leaves an ugly mark on a child's
face in infancy, the bad habits learned in childhood
remain the same after growing up.
It is better for parents to pass on their good services to
the people and homeland as inheritance rather than
accumulating property and leaving it as inheritance to
their children, because this inheritance remains an
invaluable, eternal gift for future generations.
It's good when parents give useful advice to a child, but
even better when they show examples from their own
life experiences.
A child is like a bird whose one wing is its parents, and
the other is its teacher and community. These wings,
with their coordinated movements, guide the child into
life. If the child's wings move in opposite directions, the
child cannot rise.
The upbringing of the eldest child in the family is of
particular importance, as the younger ones follow him.
Our people say that where the big cart goes, the small
cart follows it.
Discord in the family is a poisonous bullet into a child's
nerves and health. The family is like a boat sailing on
the sea. If the head of the family is a wise, strong-willed
person, and if family members are united with each
other, they will withstand any waves and reach their
intended destination. A child's heart is like an
unopened enigma, and finding the key that opens it
depends on the teacher's skill.
There are both heartless women who give birth to a
child and abandon them, and compassionate women
who embrace and raise abandoned infants. The
MOTHER didn't give birth to the child, but raised and
nurtured them.
My student, do not try to teach your students without
a deep understanding of the laws of the development
of nature and society, as well as human thought.
Because it cannot be explained without understanding.
My student, take a look at the bird, it will press the egg
to its warm embrace and give it life. You too were a
piece of flesh, nourished by a mother's warm affection,
pure and pure milk, and found your tongue and heart.
Dear mother, don't forget!
Parents must have in their hearts the heart of a
legendary giant, in their hearts the scorching heat of
the sun, in their will the endurance of steel, the sharp
eyes of a far-sighted eagle, the lamp of wisdom like the
transparent light of a mirror, and an inexhaustible
spring of love and knowledge like a clear spring.
The value of fruit is known to those who plant and grow
it, and the value of a child is known to those who raise
and nurture it.
It is necessary to educate the child, raise him to be
capable of life, energetic, and sociable. Raising a child
capable of life is the sacred duty of parents.
It should be understood that morality and manners are
twins born from labor.
Life experience shows that life has its bitter and sweet
sides, and only a person who has tasted both can feel
the value of life and people more deeply. Because
human experience shows that rain is grass, and honest
work makes a person's face beautiful.
Our people didn't say in vain that wealth that comes
without labor is a vice, and what comes with sweat
from the forehead is pleasure.
In life, it's good to save three things: save time - it won't
return; save your words - you won't lose your worth;
restrain your desires - your dignity won't be damaged.
Of course, to be a worthy parent, a div needs health,
and a head needs intelligence.
If your child is talkative from childhood and does little,
they will still love talking more than working when they
grow up.
In raising a child, parents should pay great attention to
their acquisition of knowledge and skills. Knowledge
and skills are such selfless possessions that they never
burden a person, but rather make your burden lighter
and your difficulties easier.
Knowledge is beautiful with work, desire with zeal.
My beloved student, always be a slave to your mind
and conscience, but be master of your tongue and will!
Our wise people say: "It is better to ride a camel and
look far ahead." To strive for it wisely with foresight is
the work of the wise.
If a person's intellect and perception do not grow with
age, they will be deprived of the lessons of the great
school of life.
There should be a balance between the child's age and
their behavior, otherwise they might become a
laughingstock to others with their childish behavior.
Just as the strength and power of rivers are measured
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by the number and strength of tributaries flowing into
them, the greatness of good people is measured by the
number and quality of people who emulate them.
Of course, Parents need to know who their child is
friends with, because a person is judged by their
friends.
It's no secret that life never develops smoothly. We
cannot deny the existence of inequalities in raising
children. The number of negative consequences
encountered in our lives may have increased, but hasn't
decreased.
There are also some brides and grooms who love their
honey, chase their bees, love their children, and push
their mothers, but their marriage is fragile.
My student, your criterion in love should be classical
aspirations based on noble morality and refinement,
and its rational striving. Because you are a precious
child of the great ones.
It is known that a person who is not loyal to their
spouse and does not fulfill their parental duty in the
family is not worthy of people's attention and respect.
A person should have status in their own home.
Someone who isn't needed by their own household
isn't needed by others either.
No matter how much you place a stone next to gold,
the stone's value won't increase, and gold won't
become worthless. Likewise, no matter how much the
slanderer throws stones of blame at a true person, in
the eyes of the people, the slanderer is respected, and
the pure person is not disgraced.
My student, no matter what career you occupy,
remember that the oceans need small tributaries.
To say that I have been educated and have no need to
be educated is itself a sign of ill-manneredness.
Because life is in constant development. Therefore, a
person is constantly being educated.
Humility and arrogance are two opposing paths: one of
these paths brings you closer to people, and the other
distances you from people.
There are ambitious people who don't respect their
parents even during their lifetime and don't even visit
them with a single piece of bread. However, after their
death, they hold handkerchiefs in their hands for the
master to see and weep while reciting prayers.
A boastful person is like a chatterbox chirping, saying
"my feet hold the world up."
Experience shows that mighty and deep rivers flow
silently, shallow streams are noisy, and wise and
energetic people speak little and do much.
A child who does not value their parents loses their
sense of conscience and honor. Along with giving the
child freedom to play their favorite, good games and
rest, it is necessary to teach them to appreciate the
value of a golden life.
A child's heart is as pure as an unopened bud, and the
preservation of its purity is in the hands of us, parents
and educators.
Just as it is happiness for every parent to be proud of
their good children, it is even greater and more
honorable for children to speak their names with
respect, calling them "my father, my mother."
Parents are the child's two most loving pillars.
Therefore, it is the human duty of every son and
daughter to honor and respect them during their
lifetime.
My student, learn from the invaluable riches created by
workers, and most importantly, make it a habit to
contribute as much as you can to increase these riches!
It is very important to raise a child to be interested in
natural and social phenomena, to be observant, since
this is how scientific research skills begin in a person.
The spinning wheel, sharpening a child's mind like a
diamond, is a regular life exercise.
The frequent meetings of children with progressive and
respected people both at home and at school positively
influence the formation of their worldview. It is known
that a child's psyche is prone to imitating adults.
Raising a child in the spirit of brotherhood and
friendship with all working people of the world is an
integral part of the educational work in Muslim
families. Therefore, our children will grow up to be true
internationalists.
The most correct form of educating a child is to politely
make them acknowledge the harmfulness of their
mistakes and inappropriate actions, guiding them to
the right path.
A child's passion for science is itself beauty; if it is
adorned with the garment of aspiration, beauty is
added to beauty.
A child's talent expects fire from us, the educators. If
we can ignite it, it will shine like light.
Just as a plant doesn't grow without soil, a child doesn't
develop wrong behavior without reason.
If you want your children to be pure in life, don't cast
impure glances at others' children.
It is necessary to raise a child so that they are not
satiated with pleasure, but with knowledge and
enlightenment.
Shouting and quarrelsomeness are also diseases, these
diseases are often transmitted to children from parents
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and adults.
Some people, staring into your eyes, fabricate lies, and
are not even ashamed to say that they saw something
that didn't exist. The companionship of this vice is also
added to his core in childhood.
If we can give a child a wonderful upbringing, it will add
to your life, otherwise it will cut your life.
For a child to have high aesthetics, first of all, the
surrounding environment must be beautiful, and the
child must be not just a spectator of ready-made
beauty, but a creator of beauty.
Teaching a child patience and endurance has its place,
time, and measure. It is known that blind tolerance of
some people's inappropriate and harmful behaviors is
a sign of weakness.
In some families, one child is constantly palpated, and
the other is nudged. As a result, one of them develops
feelings of hatred towards their parents, while the
other develops spoiled moods.
We, as educators and parents, share, to a certain
extent, in the good and honorable deeds of our
children, as well as in their unworthy actions.
Since you raised your child thinking "let me wear it or
not eat it, let everything be yours" and thinking only
about their own interests, don't be surprised if they
don't appreciate you.
When educating young people, we must consider the
difference between the environment in which we lived
and grew up and the current conditions. Because the
messages that influence their development are
incomparably numerous and multifaceted.
An excessive, affectionate response to children is often
heartless.
For parents, the best gift from a child is the good and
honorable work done on their own initiative.
It is incorrect to recognize a child's shortcoming and
turn away from it, because every child with a defect has
at least one positive quality. This quality should be the
foundation of upbringing.
If your child hasn't found their place in life, it's a sign of
your indifference to preparing them for life and their
future.
A child who observes life asks many questions. A wise
answer perfects his mind.
If a child lacks observation of life and existence, they
become dull and foolish. Therefore, it is necessary to
develop their observation skills.
Life has complex, knotty problems. To be able to find
and solve them with wisdom and insight, a person
needs to acquire knowledge and skills from childhood.
My student, know that your being belongs to the earth,
and your past belongs to the people.
Nature is also a kind of educator. It sometimes
accustoms its seedlings to cold storms and scorching
heat. From time to time, she gently washes her with
crystal drops, caressing her face with the gentle breeze.
A child's initiative is like a seed scattered on the ground;
if cared for in time, it grows and spreads wings.
The cleanliness and orderliness of the child's
environment, school, and family play an important role
in raising them to be clean-natured.
As the President of our country noted: "School is not
only a place of education, but also a cradle of high
spirituality for all of us, an institution that teaches our
children professions from childhood".
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