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PSYCHOLOGICAL BASIS OF NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN
PARENTS AND THEIR CHILDREN IN UZBEKISTAN FAMILIES
Gaipnazarov Rakhmatilla
Head of the Department of Youth Work, Spirituality and Enlightenment
of the International Islamic Academy of Uzbekistan
Doctor of Philosophy in Pedagogical Sciences (PhD)
RaxmatillaGaipnazarov@gmail.com
Zarpullayev Kamol
International Islamic Academy of Uzbekistan
Master's student in Psychology
Аннотация:
Проведено исследование негативных взаимоотношений между детьми и
родителями в узбекских семьях и их психологических последствий. Предлагается
несколько методов и приемов для предотвращения этих взаимоотношений или
предоставления эффективных решений для них. Основная цель статьи — позитивное
разрешение конфликтов и проблем в семье и предложение новых решений. Изучается
устранение проблем с помощью творческого подхода к семейным разногласиям. Кроме
того, глубоко анализируются психологические последствия любых проблем.
Ключевые слова
: Психокоррекция, роль родителей в семье, метод наблюдения, метод
интервью, психологические проблемы, подростковая психология.
Abstract:
A study was conducted on negative relationships between children and their
parents in Uzbek families and their psychological consequences. Several methods and
techniques are proposed to prevent these relationships or provide effective solutions to them.
The main goal of the article is to positively resolve conflicts and problems in the family and
offer new solutions. The elimination of problems is studied with a creative approach to
family disagreements. In addition, the psychological consequences of any problems are
analyzed in depth
Keywords:
Psychocorrection, the role of parents in the family, observation method, interview
method, psychological problems, adolescent psychology.
Introduction
Family is the smallest but most important unit of society. Uzbek families
are mainly based on traditional values, in which respect, obedience and mutual kindness play
an important role. However, as a result of the changes in modern life, the development of
technology and cultural influences, certain problems are arising between parents and children.
This article analyzes the psychological foundations of negative problems within the family
and discusses ways to prevent them. New approaches and solutions are presented to each
problem. It also explains how parents behave in problematic situations and how to approach
child rearing. We can also see such problems in Uzbek families using the observation method.
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Observation and analysis of the results, statistics show that the main problems and
shortcomings in the family include the following:
The main part
for the lack of trust in their children in young families is that parents
leave all the responsibility on themselves. A child who does not feel the burden of
responsibility will never be able to act confidently and confidently in adult life. The lack of
open and trusting communication between parents and children causes problems. Many
parents prefer to command and control their children rather than understand their inner world.
As a result, children are afraid to express their thoughts openly and emotional distancing is
observed. The sad thing is that the more technology and technology become popular, the less
time parents spend with their children. Even the fact that the daily communication level has
decreased to 15 minutes is a clear proof of this. This situation is especially noticeable in
young families. In traditional families, punishment and strict control are used as a means of
upbringing. Modern youth want more freedom. The more parents try to maintain their views,
the more misunderstandings with their children increase. As a result, conflicts and
disagreements arise. Parents who have grown up in a strict family sometimes try to introduce
such a method of control and upbringing to their children. However, today's youth are
growing up on the basis of concepts such as freedom and equality, which naturally leads to
situations that further exacerbate conflicts in the family. Your child is not a person of your
time, but a person of the future generation. Therefore, you should seek solutions to problems
together, while respecting his rights and personality. Some parents can be overly demanding
or critical of their children. This can cause self-doubt, depression, and rebellion in children.
They are forced to hide their feelings, and as a result, the family atmosphere becomes cold. I
can say for sure that this is precisely the flaw that is most noticeable in young families.
Young parents demand respect from their children, while experienced parents achieve respect
through practical skills and willpower.
The development of technology has increased the gap between parents and children.
While young people are increasingly addicted to the Internet and social networks, parents
may perceive this as indifference or laziness. This deepens misunderstandings in the family.
This problem is more common in young families and is almost invisible in experienced
families. The main mistake in this is also associated with children's excessive use of social
networks and cyber games. In this case, the main culprit is undoubtedly the parents. Giving a
child a toy or some kind of pet (poultry, cattle, sheep, cat) instead of a phone or other devices
and reassuring him that you will raise it yourself will also help him to divert his focus from
gadgets.
References review and methods.
From a psychological point of view, problems
between parents and children are often associated with the gap between generations.
According to Erik Erikson's theory of personal development, people of different ages have
different psychological needs. For example, if parents value a sense of stability and
responsibility, young people strive to feel independent. Parents who do not understand this
essence use violence, force and various inhuman methods of upbringing. Such situations
accelerate the process of upbringing and the negative change in the psychological
environment in the family. In Uzbek families, parents can interfere excessively in the
personal lives of their children. This causes psychological distress and resistance in children.
Violation of personal boundaries negatively affects the family environment. Parents are too
intrusive in their children's personal lives and trivial matters, stifling the child's sense of
independence. As a result, children become stubborn, selfish, disrespectful to their parents,
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and quarrels are common. Parents should value and respect the child's individuality and
integrity. Children's relationships with their parents in childhood have a great impact on the
future family environment. If parents do not show enough love and attention in childhood,
this can lead to negative emotional problems in the future. For example, today's parents, who
grew up without a father or mother at a young age, often have misunderstandings with their
children. This is because they try to raise their children under the influence of the difficulties
and suffering of their own youth. This method of upbringing is strictly prohibited in both
pedagogy and psychology. Everyone should live their own life. If someone had a difficult
childhood, they should not raise their child to be the same. Some parents do this consciously,
while others do it unconsciously. Remember that your children should not hold you
responsible for your past difficulties.
As a solution, it is necessary to increase the time for communication and involve the
child in discussions of family issues more often and find out his opinion. It is necessary to
establish open and sincere communication. Parents should learn to communicate openly with
their children. To do this, they should listen to their children's opinions, give them the
opportunity to express their opinions, and listening and sharing the child's feelings can be the
best psychological solution to these problems. The child will feel like an adult and a different
perspective on the problem will be formed.
Discussion and results.
Traditional methods of upbringing should be adapted to
modern needs. Instead of punishment, it may be more effective to use methods of explanation
and motivation. Some parents punish their children without discussing them. This is a gross
mistake from a pedagogical point of view. Today, children need to be explained with
practical examples and real situations. Parents should understand that beating is not always a
positive solution. Imam Ghazali emphasized in his book "O Son" that "children take an
example from the words and actions of their parents, so parents should pay attention to their
actions." At the same time, give your children independence from a young age and build
strong self-confidence. This is a quality that will be very helpful in their future lives.
It is important to respect the privacy and independence of children. You should pay
attention to their choices and help them find their own path. Treating a young child like an
adult is very positive. Giving responsibility to a child and supporting the child to solve it is a
very powerful method of upbringing. In his book "100 Basic Rules in Childrearing", the
famous Turkish educator Adam Gunesh emphasizes issues such as treating a child with
respect, understanding and accepting his feelings, as well as giving the child the opportunity
to make independent decisions. It is precisely these qualities that are considered one of the
characteristics that greatly help children who grow up to find their place in society and
become an important part of it.
Parents should agree with their children about the use of technology. It is important to
give advice on the correct use of social networks and the Internet. The best and most effective
way is for parents themselves to follow these rules and etiquette for using social networks as
an example. As they say, "the bird does what it sees in the nest". Remember, simply
forbidding a child to do this is like pouring fuel on a burning fire. You need to explain to him
the negative consequences of this. Only then will the child be able to accept it.
In conclusion,
it is worth noting that negative problems between parents and children
in Uzbek families are mainly related to lack of communication, differences in upbringing
methods, and violation of personal boundaries. To solve these problems, it is necessary to
improve the family environment based on open communication, understanding, and respect.
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In modern society, parents can form healthier and stronger family ties by listening to their
children and guiding them. "In raising a child, relationships built on mutual trust and respect,
rather than strictness and punishment, are of great importance. Children expect not only
protection and care from their parents, but also their emotional support," says Sheikh
Muhammad Sodiq Muhammad Yusuf in his book "Happy Family". There is no such thing as
a problem that has no solution, in fact, parents just need to look for them and apply the
necessary method at the right time. The main educational task of the family is a concept that
expresses the mental, physical, moral, aesthetic upbringing of children. Since the family is
the main place for a person to mature, we should consider his upbringing as the foundation of
this place.
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3. Adem Gunesh. 100 Basic Rules in Child Education. Munir Publishing. Tashkent:2023.
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