Characteristics of rationality and irrationality in the social
anthropology of love
Sultanova Nodira Ergashovna
University Tashkent of Applied sciences, Department of History, Ph.D.,
Associate Professor, etc. tel.90-905-15-83
https://doi.org/10.5281/zenodo.10466985
Keywords:
family, marriage, affection, love, affection, morality, book, man, humanity, patriotism, friendship,
education system, morality, national values.
Abstract:
In the article National-spiritual education: essence and principles. National and spiritual factors of
raising children in the family. The role of national customs, traditions and traditions in educating
the younger generation. The influence of the existing rules and regulations in the life of the people
on the upbringing of a harmoniously developed generation in the family
The family embodies the ethnopsychological aspects of
which nation it belongs to. This nation, which belongs to
the family, fulfills the customs, and traditions, and uses
these national aspects in the upbringing of the younger
generation. Ethnopsychological aspects of the nation are
formed and developed through national customs and
traditions.
The use of national education in the spiritual and moral
upbringing of children in the family has long existed in our
national pedagogy, and at different times it has a unique
appearance and content. National education with its
diversity of values is
affecting children's worldview and psyche, The formation
of certain skills is a complex process.
National education is the interests of the nation that are
important to man
freedom, social justice, equality, truth, embodies such
qualities as enlightenment, beauty, goodness, honesty,
devotion to duty. National upbringing is certain
all that nations, peoples, and peoples create during their
own historical development consists of the sum of material
and cultural (spiritual) riches.
As long as a nation exists, the specific national methods,
content and direction of education associated with its
spirituality are constantly improving. It should also be
noted that education in any situation can not remain within
the framework of pure national traditions, national
experience. Pure national criteria and traditions in
education and upbringing limit the opportunities for the
formation of a perfect human personality. [1:38]
Any national upbringing gives good results only when it is
connected with universal values. The unity between
education and upbringing has always been of great practical
and scientific importance. However, one of the main
features of the Uzbek national education system is to give
priority to the education of young people in the formation
of their outlook on life, worldview, faith and beliefs. A
person’s morals morality and manners are formed first, he
recognizes himself as a person and begins to interact with
others. These relationships begin with the child's
relationship with his parents, siblings, close friends, simple
greetings and greetings, pureness or purity, and
relationships with neighbors, neighborhoods. [2:58]
All this requires a new approach to the theory of education,
including the reliance on nationalism in educating the next
generation, the national and moral values of the people for
many centuries, to become the main area of the educational
process. Because the whole world recognizes that the cause
of moral depression in societies far from national traditions
is the forgetting of the traditions of spiritual upbringing, the
examples of educational creativity of peoples.
For this reason, the scientific understanding of the national
identity of education and its effective application in the
movement towards the spiritual maturity of society, based
on nationalism in education is a spiritual requirement of the
period and the great future. National upbringing is a specific
manifestation of the universal pedagogical culture in a
private, national experience. So, nationality is natural and,
therefore, primary, universalism is the commonality and
harmony between nationalities, and therefore it is a product.
[3:18]
Nationality is a value. He was able to emdiv nationalism
each man is a representative of national wisdom, inherited
from his ancestors The rest have a deep respect for their
national values, soul and heart promotes with. Ignorance of
national values hurts and protects when you see disrespect.
The organization of the educational process is
one of the main social tasks facing society. And society
cannot be nominal. With the help of upbringing, the tried,
most favorable, progressive experience of generations is
mastered and passed on to the new generation, the
consciousness and behavior of people are inculcated in the
moral norms accepted in this society, the ideas of national
independence are assimilated. The content of socio-national
education is the fact that educational tasks, goals, processes,
methods are imbued with the national spirit. Hence, the
educational process that is directed, organized and managed
by parents should also be based on nationalism in our socio-
cultural life.
Only in this way will the transmission of
national values to the younger generation, their assimilation
be purposefully organized, and the family will become a
center of national cultural development.
The family is a creative, assimilating, modernizing and
enriching, preserving the national values of its family tree
in the process of its socio-cultural development. the perfect
fulfillment of such human duties by each family makes the
national spirituality rich and colourful. From this point of
view, every family is a social institution that combines
historical, social, cultural and national upbringing.
From one generation to the next in the acquisition of a
national character of upbringing in terms of traditions,
ceremonies, rituals, production passed down from
generation to generation and life experiences, forms of
behavior, and the specificity of attitudes toward children,
adolescents, and the elderly play a crucial role. This was
discussed in the chapter on socio-pedagogical retrospective
analysis of samples of the family national educational
environment of our research.
The national feature of upbringing is that it has strict moral
norms
and between the parent and the child of these norms
characterized by its manifestation in the context of the
relationship. For example, when a girl was seven years old,
neither her father nor her brothers kissed her, because they
knew that puberty would begin in her div and that it would
negatively affect her upbringing, wrote Uzbek folk artists
H.Umurov and K.Haydarov. and M.Khalikov [4:22].
The
issue of national education is different in different countries
of the world during the period, especially by scholars of the
East, who achieved national independence. For example,
Al-Husri, a well-known Egyptian educator, said: writes.
Accordingly, along with the similarities of the Uzbek
family with other families in the world, it also has its own
peculiarities. The existing rules and regulations in the life
of the Uzbek people are based on folk traditions and
historical conditions. The Uzbek people deserve to be
justifiably proud of the history of its great family, the
culture of family relations, its high spiritual and moral
traditions.
When we think of the Uzbek family, we see the role of each
person in the family, his attitude to others, his duties and
other rules of etiquette. In the family, the parental
relationship, the rules of the relationship between children
and them, are strong and stable This humane quality is
especially evident in the respect of adults. This custom is
taught to children from an early age. The adoption of an
Uzbek family begins with the birth of a child. The birth of
a son or a daughter in the family was a great celebration, a
great joy, a divine event. Hence the saying, "A son has a
place, a daughter has a place." Especially the birth of a son
gave the parents a special joy, extraordinary happiness.
Because if a girl is considered to be someone else's enmity,
happiness, joy, beauty, grace of another family, a boy is
considered to be a permanent member of the family, a
successor of the dynasty, the shaker of the family cradle,
the owner of the parents' coffin at the last moment. He was
considered to be the beauty of the corner, the beauty of the
family, its prestige, the successor of traditions, as well as
the neighbor, the neighborhood, the defender of the
motherland, the devotee of the motherland. [5:88]
Therefore, the birth of a child in the family is a confirmation
of the hopes and dreams of the parents, the family,
brotherhood, beauty, grace, blessing, prestige, vitality,
family stability, integrity.
Family upbringing means bringing up alone. Upbringing is
also different in families. Because while a hundred is more
complicated for young parents, it is more neglected in
middle-aged families. Among the elderly, it is peace of
mind. The upbringing in this way will also be different It
should be noted that in an Uzbek family with many
children, the equal treatment of parents, whether girls, boys,
firstborns or younger children, increases the effectiveness
of national education. That is why it is important not to
pamper children too much, to form the character of boys
and girls on the example of great people. Basically, we must
bring up children in the family on the basis of our national
values, traditions and ceremonies. In particular, it is
necessary to give an idea about national holidays,
weddings, national wrestling and competitions, saying alla,
ways of waiting for guests, seasonal.
It should be the sacred duty of the family to instill in the
family a sense of respect for the elders, parents, relatives,
teachers and educators, to instill in them a spirit of love for
the accumulated wealth and historical monuments created
by the previous generation. The best upbringing in the
family is labour education. The child should be taught to
work from an early age. Because a working child is
accustomed to respect the work of adults. One of the
important signs of upbringing is that the parents carefully
spend every penny they earn in the family and teach the
children from an early age. [6:48]
Children need to be taught and accustomed to appreciate
and care for things in the family from an early age. A child’s
manners are manifested primarily in his or her treatment of
his or her peers in adulthood, where the child learns good
habits, including courtesy, from his or her parents, teachers,
and adults.
In the process of national upbringing, children in every
family need a good example to form good behavior. Any
fertilizer is effective as an example. There are enough
teachings in the hadith to call people to goodness. Let our
sons and daughters be brought up in such a way that our
brought up child cares not only for the family or himself,
but also for the Motherland and its bright future.
Our goal in teaching the younger generation to be polite,
honest, respect the elders, empathize with people, do good
is to bring up a person of noble character, knowledge and
culture for the society in the spirit of the best traditions and
family traditions of our independent Uzbekistan.
It is known that if a child grows up in the bosom of nature
from an early age, if he does not pluck the blossoming
flowers, if he loves and cares for animals and birds, he will
grow up to be humane, compassionate, kind to children and
adults. Consequently, a bad person will never come out of
the children who make nests for the birds in the bitter winter
and sow grain for the birds that are trembling with hunger.
On the contrary, it is natural that in the future, murderers,
hooligans, and thugs will come out of children who kill
birds with stones in their hands and beat animals with sticks
in their stomachs.
Keeping in mind that the work of national upbringing is as
delicate as the work of a jeweler, it is wise to teach a child
from an early age moral and behavioral skills, first of all,
from scientific and practical methods such as practice,
conversation, explanation, persuasion, composition. It is
advisable to use.
As a person works tirelessly to achieve his goal, he must
first have a strong will. Therefore, we need to focus on the
formation of exercise qualities in children as the main focus
of our educational work. In this case, the agenda plays an
important role, on the basis of which the child is able to
effectively use time, to work diligently throughout his life,
to acquire the ability to work. There is a harmony between
aspiration and assessment of personal ability. [7:25]
In the process of national upbringing, it is also important to
influence the child's mind by having occasional
conversations on ethical issues. At the same time, the
conversation can be interesting about the life and work of
the heroes of art, the wonderful people of our country, the
natural world. In this case, it is expedient to organize an
educational event, taking into account the age
characteristics of boys and girls, levels of knowledge,
mental capabilities, interests, abilities. In this regard, the
fact that children communicate with the clergy also clarifies
our purpose. Islamic hadiths say, "Religion is advice."
Indeed, a bad word comes out of a knife's sheath, and a good
word comes out of a snake's nest.
It is known that the child's behavior sometimes leads to
negative situations, unpleasant experiences. He does not
commit any guilt intentionally, but often because he does
not understand. It is important to understand the harm that
the child has caused, rather than punishing it for the
misconduct. Children have a desire to help adults with their
useful work, according to their spiritual world. However,
due to their inexperience and lack of education, these
desires of theirs do not come true either.
Sometimes "eyebrow-raising" takes place, he starts a case
and soon makes a mistake. In such cases, that is, when the
child wants to do something useful, he should be
immediately instructed and instructed on how to do it. In
this case, his habit of performing certain activities (task,
assignment) independently plays a role.
The method of persuasion can also be used effectively in
national education. It is often advisable to use this method
when the child is not able to perform a particular task with
evidence, but because of confusion, fear, hesitation, and in
general, in any case. Through persuasion, the child
develops a sense of self-confidence, which gives the child
an uplifting spirit.
Therefore, if we carefully educate the younger generation
from an early age, develop the necessary behavioral skills,
care for the future of our children and always feel our
responsibility to the Motherland, in accordance with the
wisdom of "save the child from the beginning, the seed
from the age" we will have done our duty with honor. That
is when our children acquire important character traits, and
they grow up not only as children of their families, but also
as children worthy of their homeland and people.
After all, if we first raise a child to be physically healthy, if
we strengthen him with a strong will, if we instill in him a
sense of innocence, virginity, a sense of true humanity,
greatness, courage, passion and nobility, If we enrich, instill
in our work such qualities as diligence, diligence, initiative,
creativity, independent action, perseverance, and direct our
abilities to a specific goal, we will be able to fulfill our
parenting and coaching duties.
That's when the hard work
we put into raising our children and the hard work we put
in will pay off. This fruit will benefit not only ourselves but
also society. And our child will be overjoyed to have
reached such a great level and will be grateful to us for a
lifetime. Otherwise, the mood in the family will escalate.
Therefore, the commonality of national-spiritual and moral
factors plays an important role in the upbringing of
children.
It is known from the process of national spiritual upbringing
that the beauty in a child's behavior does not arise
spontaneously. To do this, parents need to keep talking to
their children about good and evil, friendship and humility,
respect for adults, and so on. It is wrong to think that he will
learn manners when he comes to his senses. Children often
engage in inappropriate behaviors without first realizing it.
Sometimes parents go unnoticed by such misbehavior that
occurs in their children. Then they will regret it. It is no
coincidence that our people say that "a child is a mirror of
the moral image of parents." Indeed, the most valuable
moral qualities are naturally passed on to their children
from well-behaved, positive-minded parents. Children of
parents who live with the worries of many kind parents
always call their children to goodness.
People have always looked for similarities with their
parents while evaluating their behavior. Among our people,
the saying "See your mother and take your daughter" is the
basis of our thinking. Indeed, the future development of a
child depends more on his parents and his family and the
environment in which he lives. The saying, "A child goes
where he goes beyond his parents," is true. [7:18]
Childhood, adolescence, adolescence is a period of maturity
in which a person lives. From childhood, a person absorbs
this or that behavior from his parents, brothers, sisters,
friends, and people around him. That is why our people say,
"Adult etiquette is the perfection of children."
The most important condition in the upbringing of children
is that the family is built on a strong, spiritually healthy
foundation, first of all, the parents themselves are brought
up, there is harmony, harmony, true friendship between
them, preparing children for the future life is their
responsible duty. they must justify it in practice. Otherwise,
there is a saying, "If you hold the reed loose, it will cut your
hand." One sage once said, "Raising a child is more difficult
than running a state." Therefore, we must give priority to
the upbringing of our children.
According to the research of scientists, the scope of
knowledge of parents, their level of thinking is one of the
factors determining the increase or decrease of mental
ability of the child. Every member of the family, both
parents and children, has a certain intellectual level. Each
family member affects the whole family and the family
affects each member of the family.
It can be said that in the
mental upbringing of children it is extremely important to
create the necessary conditions for the growth of the general
intellectual level in the family. The family environment
necessary for the full intellectual development of the child
can be created only by parents with a spiritual and
enlightenment level and relevant experience, independent
thinking, broad outlook, knowledge of national traditions
and values. [9:45]
Every member of the family, ie grandparents, parents,
sisters,
brothers,
but,
aunts,
uncles,
neighbors,
neighborhood, school, community is equally responsible
for the upbringing of children in the family. Proverbs such
as "Seven neighboring parents for one child", "One uncle
instead of seven fathers", "Neighborhood-father-mother"
are not said in vain. Therefore, in the upbringing of
children, everyone's needs and attitudes should be the same.
The diversity of parenting methods, demands, and opinions
among caregivers leads to child neglect. [10:16]
Childhood, youth, adolescence are the heyday of human
life, the period of maturity. From childhood, a person
imitates this or that behavior from his parents, brothers,
sisters, friends, and people around him. Observations show
that in most families, raising a child is understood as just
caring for him or her. The mental development of the child
and his formation as a person is neglected. Children raised
in such families, although adults, lag far behind in terms of
practical development. [11:78]
Children raised in some families seem to be over-developed
at first, and many are amazed by their behavior. However,
they do not have the basic skills of self-service and are
unable to communicate quickly with children. He always
pulls himself aside. The manifestation of such a condition
indicates the unilateral development of the child.
Clearly, no parent likes a one-sided approach to child
development. So it is important to remember that it is up to
each parent to prevent it, to raise their child to the point of
envy. To do this, it is necessary to use specific methods of
upbringing, taking into account the biological and
psychological changes that occur at each age of the child.
In particular, parents should keep in mind that the period
from one to three years of age is the basis of a child's
personal development, and at the same time it is necessary
to pay more attention to the upbringing of the child. In
practice, however, we often see that parents are accustomed
to looking at this age as a naughty, helpless child.
Observations show that parenting opportunities in large
families are more varied and varied than in families with
few children. In Uzbek families, parents involve children in
adult labor based on their age and ability. Therefore, young
people decide on issues related to their families
independently and responsibly. Of course, in this case, the
behavior of parents in the family in a certain direction and
their reflection in the activities of children is important.
It is important not to forget not only the character,
temperaments, which are passed from parents to children,
but also their behavior, problem, forms of interaction, style
of response. The division of labor in the family is one of the
most ancient and culturally social. Today, however, in
urban families, husband and wife have created many forms
of sharing responsibilities. More precisely, the direction of
equality in the conduct of all family affairs is clearly visible.
This is especially evident in the performance of the task of
raising children.
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