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ABSTRACT
Starting a family was considered a sacred and praiseworthy act. The purpose of marriage was to create a healthy
family and the birth of healthy children who would prolong the life of their parents. Family rules are a set of principles
that define how family members should behave. When applied correctly, these rules will help bring harmony to the
entire family. Rules that are followed correctly and consistently provide structure and expectations in which children
feel cared for and cared for. they feel safe. Good family rules should be positive, easy to understand, and not target
negative behavior.
KEYWORDS
Psychology, family, motivation, relationships, society.
INTRODUCTION
In modern conditions of socio-economic changes, the
problem of raising children and youth based on the
system of humanistic education is of paramount
importance. In this regard, it is very important to
develop and introduce the basic ideas and rules of
humanistic pedagogy into the theory and practice of
modern education and training. At the center of a
humanistic course of education is always a perfect
individual who tries to make full use of his capabilities
and achieve high goals. The development of tolerance
is a real need of modern society. In the conditions of
the formation of new socio-economic relations, the
scientifically based problem of education compatibility
is of great importance. A family is a free, voluntary and
Research Article
SOCIETY'S ATTITUDE TO THE CONCEPT OF FAMILY AND MOTIVATION
FOR MARRIAGE
Submission Date:
November 06, 2023,
Accepted Date:
November 11, 2023,
Published Date:
November 16, 2023
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Jovlieva Nasiba Umrzokovna
Lecturer At The Department Of Psychology Termez State University, Uzbekistan
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equal union of a man and a woman, created on the
basis of mutual love and respect for the purpose of
creating a family and procreation, and under the
protection of the state. Society consists of families,
and a healthy family is a healthy society. If the family is
stable and morally healthy, then the society will be
stable. The family is connected with the life of society
through the birth and upbringing of a child, family
organization,
favorable
living
conditions
and
existence, physical, mental and spiritual development.
To preserve the health of the family, it is important that
its members, first of all, build their relationships within
the framework of mutual understanding, respect of
the parties, and preserve the dignity and reputation of
each family member. The position and role of the
family in society is very great; it forms the basis of the
state. Just as a house is built of bricks, so the state
consists of a family. Just as a house is built of bricks, the
foundation of society is made up of families. From this
point of view, the stability and instability of the state
depends on this. The stronger the family and the more
parents raise their children in the spirit of patriotism,
humanity and self-awareness, the more stable the
society will be and it will produce the desired results in
the future. The famous American director Johnny Depp
rightly said: “The most important thing in the world is
family. If you don't have a family, you have nothing.
Family is the strongest bond of our entire lives.” The
family, as the oldest social structure in human history,
plays an important role and position in the formation
of human society. The family has always had a special
status and importance for the development of society,
determining the economic, political, social and cultural
structure of each people and nation. It is not for
nothing that the greats called the family the essence of
life, the basis of the state, the regulator of the
development and image of the nation. All gains and
losses of life as the substance of society are
inextricably linked with the work of the family. As the
Leader of the Nation Emomali Rahmon noted, “The
family is recognized as a sacred institution in the
culture of the ancient Tajik people, because the best
human values, such as love, sincerity, loyalty, mutual
understanding and tolerance, are formed in the
family.” family." Indeed, the concept of family and
household, especially for our people, has created
worthy examples of high traditions.
The great figures of science and literature in the history
of our cultural nation left many painstaking studies and
treatises on the topic of family and its role in morality,
literature and human self-awareness of society, which
are known and famous. In particular, the immortal
works of our classic writers are evidence of these
words. If children are raised correctly, the state and
society will achieve their goals and objectives. The
family situation has a direct impact on the social life of
the state. One of the most important functions of the
family in society is the birth of offspring. Statistical
analysis proves that in countries where families have
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only one child, their population decreases year by year.
Therefore, to maintain population levels, families must
have and raise at least two children. It is natural that
parents grow old and pass away. If one child grows up
in a family and replaces only the place of the parents in
society, this situation becomes the cause of population
decline. If there are two children in a family, then
instead the parents prepare two people for society. At
the same time, the population remains at the same
level. It is clear that not all children grow up. Some of
them die at a young age for various reasons. These
situations also lead to population decline. Therefore, in
order to maintain the population, a family must raise at
least three children. A decrease or increase in
population affects the economy and social policy of the
state. For example, in the European part of the former
Soviet Union and a number of European countries, due
to the lack of population growth, there are no workers
at industrial enterprises, and villages are threatened
with destruction. Therefore, it is very important to
regulate the number of children born in a family. In
science, this issue is called population regulation or
demographic regulation.
The birth of a baby brings joy and happiness to every
family. The auspicious step of a baby brings light,
intelligence and happiness to the family, strengthens
the family, strengthens the will of the parents and
increases their trust and confidence in each other. It
should be understood that parents will have a high
responsibility for maintaining the health of the family.
Because the birth of a child brings with it certain duties
and responsibilities, as well as joy. Raising a healthy and
safe child is one of the main and important
responsibilities of the family to society and requires
great responsibility from parents. Parents are obliged
to take care of the upbringing of their children and
raise them to be worthy members of society. In the
Republic of Uzbekistan, most families pay special
attention to the upbringing of their children and raise
them in the spirit of love for the Motherland, national
pride, respect for elders and other high human values.
Unfortunately, there are also families who do not pay
special attention to the education of their children,
which negatively affects the development of the
children’s personality and complicates their further
education. It is not enough to simply have the desire to
raise a good child; you must take on the task of raising
a child. Every parent should understand well that
raising a child is one of the most important aspects of
our lives. A good education is our pride, happiness and
pride in society. This is why we must view raising a child
not only as a personal task, but also as a civic
responsibility and duty to society. In the process of
upbringing, parents achieve success only when they
create favorable conditions for the physical and mental
development of the child. It is good to understand the
goal, objectives and methods of its implementation,
use the correct teaching methods, have unique
requirements for the child and be an example to
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children with your actions and words. The essence of
the relationship between parents and children should
be love and trust based on mutual respect. Families
with a healthy environment, friendly relationships,
mutual understanding and trust have good
foundations and opportunities for raising children.
Because in such families it is customary to talk more
about love and fidelity, issues of education and
morality, and such an environment and relationships
themselves constantly enrich the child’s inner world
with love and fidelity. It should be borne in mind that
the family environment is not always monotonous. The
family sometimes faces difficulties. As children grow
older, their needs increase and family involvement
increases even more, which does not affect the
family's educational environment. No wonder they
said: “Dear child, his manners are more valuable than
himself.” Therefore, having a
child is only half the
battle. It is important and most important to raise a
child to be an educated, polite and hardworking
person. This is an important and responsible task for
the family. Preparing children for independent family
life is, first of all, the responsibility of parents. A
newborn child, who is compared to a young plant, sees
the world with open eyes in the family, gradually gets
to know his parents and relatives , learns to smile, get
up and sit down, take the first step. His self-awareness,
imagination and worldview are first formed in the
family, surrounded by his parents, and shaped under
their direct influence. In this regard, people say: If the
tree is small, the gardener can make it whatever he
wants. When he grows up, he won't be able to get it
back. So it is with raising children. It is not for nothing
that in our country raising a child is considered the duty
of the family, school and society. In case of improper
upbringing in the family, official bodies intervene.
Parents are obliged to talk with their children on topics
of family, relations between husband and wife,
livelihood, hospitality, relationships with each other's
relatives and raising children, and at the same time use
the best traditions of the Tajik people. Another
challenge that every family faces is to instill economic
and hardworking education in their children. Love for
work is formed from childhood. The honest attitude of
adults towards work has a positive effect on children.
Each family performs a farming-production function,
and this work is especially well developed in rural
areas. In rural areas, each family has a plot of land in
front of the house for cultivation and personal labor,
and all family members work to grow food. Part of the
crop that the family grows on their plot of land is used
for their own consumption, and part is sold on the
market.
In Uzbekistan, the contribution of private farms to
providing society with food such as meat, milk, eggs
and agricultural products is very large. The influence of
family farms on the supply of society is very large, and
the quality and cheapness of agricultural products
depends on this in sports and livestock markets.
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Working the land around the yard, keeping personal
livestock, and doing family farming requires the
participation of all family members. Therefore, rural
children from an early age are involved in agricultural
work, which becomes a school for them in labor and
agricultural training. Children work in the garden,
picking fruits and vegetables, and preparing feed for
livestock. Girls take care of livestock, do housework,
and prepare food. They grow up to be people who
have experienced hard work and use their experiences
to raise their future children. In families living in the
city, household chores are carried out according to a
different system. Families who own a private home can
grow fruit trees, cilantro and onions in their yard. Such
families, to some extent, participate in agricultural
work on an equal basis with rural residents. Although
some of them do not sell their farm produce to the
market, they partially provide for their family's needs.
Families living in multi-storey buildings are deprived of
the opportunity to work in agriculture. Their household
duties consist only of housework such as cleaning,
cooking and laundry. These families do not produce
any products and are only consumers. Such parents
should involve their children in household chores.
Teach them about farming and family and prepare
them for independent family life. The family, as the
basis and important chain of society, performs certain
tasks. The essence of a family is directly reflected in the
duties, order and behavior of its members. The most
important task of the family, both in the past and in our
time, is to give birth, that is, to produce offspring. The
first period of raising children begins in the family and
continues until the formation of a full-fledged citizen.
Caring for disabled family members is the duty and
responsibility of able-bodied family members. It is the
family that provides, organizes and controls the lives of
its members. The family as a social phenomenon fulfills
the tasks of spiritual and moral education, mental
education, providing favorable living conditions and
creativity, labor, health care, health protection, etc. in
order to achieve a prosperous and healthy life. One of
the most important functions of the family, which plays
a more important and effective role in all the
achievements and maturity of the individual and
human character, is education. Another responsibility
of the family is to maintain the connection between
generations. In tradition they say that “every person
should know his seven backs,” that is, he should have
information about his grandparents and other
ancestors. It is the duty of parents to tell their children
about their family. Most of the time, if grandparents
talk about their lives, about their ancestors and
relatives. Relatives and friends come to visit them.
Parents who enforce rules too rigidly and restrict
personal freedoms harm the child's independence.
blow, and this can have negative consequences such as
drinking alcohol. Skilled Education The child needs a
balanced and loving approach to setting rules. Family
rules can help children behave outside the home. Lack
of structure and inadequate setting of limits can put
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children at risk for their biggest behavioral problems.
In this way, children get to know their relatives, family
friends, make friends with their children, show
affection for their relatives, and thereby strengthen
family ties and friendship. It is difficult to live without
the help and support of family and friends. The well-
being and health and education of society, the
economic and social development of the country, and
building a healthy life largely depend on the education
of each family member.
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